When my friend asked me to drive her to the beach, so she could have a photo shoot with one of her friends, I couldn’t resist. Who doesn’t love spending a good, sunny, somewhat warm spring day at the ocean, while making some reflections?
With my life as hectic as it is, I’m always in need of some time to make reflections about everything. The five total hours of driving, paired with time watching the waves flood in and out on the shore, helped me relax, meditate, and consider what’s coming.
I’m only two months away from graduating college with my Bachelor’s degree, so, the easiest way I can put this is, I’ve been stressed. Taking some time to myself to just watch the beautiful world we live in helped.
- Don’t be so serious all the time. I’m plenty guilty of this — smiling is a luxury — but focusing on smiling and resting your eyes a few times a day helps it become more natural.
- It’s okay to want to change something about yourself as long as it doesn’t consume you. I had a gap in between my teeth a year ago and I get my braces off in three days. It’s not going to be possible to like everything you have to offer, but it’s important that you come to terms with it. It makes you unique, it makes you different, and everyone always says to love yourself, so if you need to make a change to do that, then it’s perfectly fine and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.
- The future is coming, regardless of how much you worry. I’ve always been intent on moving away as soon as I graduate. I dislike the town I grew up in and want to explore the world. I’ve been trying to pinpoint a place to move, but I’m not so sure that’s the answer I need right now. Why not just start driving and see where you end up? Take the essentials, pack up some clothes, and take off. You can always come back for your bed and other things later, just roll the windows down and see where the world takes you.
- Friends come and go, let them. Not everyone is healthy for you. I’ve had the same amazing best friend since my senior year of high school, but it’s been a revolving door of other friends. Recently, I let go of some people that I wanted so badly to be my friends, but they never tried. Calling someone your friend doesn’t make them that: you have to be there when they’re struggling, when their day is shitty and they can’t stop crying, or when they want to go on an adventure. It’s like a marriage, for better or for worse. If they’re not there for you when you need them, because you’ve had a hard few weeks and they cancel your plans because they don’t want to get out of bed, cut them out. They’re no good. They’d try if they were.
- Let go. Just let go of the stress, of the drama, and of the resentment. Let it out wherever you do, say, for instance, a post on your website. Let it out, talk about it, realize it’s not good for you, and move on. Life really is too short to spend it crying in your car because of how stressed out you’ve been, or how much you hate your job.